Going through a divorce is stressful and highly emotional, but this does not mean your divorce has to be a nightmare.
During a divorce, you will experience a number of feelings and thoughts about your soon-to-be former spouse. You might experience guilt, frustrations, anger, shame and rage. And while this is completely normal and not wrong, there is a time and a place for you to express these feelings.
There will be plenty of times that you will have to deal with your former spouse and it will be very difficult discussing the aspects of your divorce or issues that affect your children. During these times, it is best if both of you focus on the issues at hand. It will help if you write down the topics that need to be addressed and stick to them.
There are ways of getting through your divorce with minimal drama. The Law Offices of Loomis and Greene, your divorce attorney in Loveland, offers guidelines for a civil divorce.
Hear the Truth
During a divorce, people take sides and basically tell you what you want to hear. You need to find someone who will give you an objective opinion of the matter. You might be very surprised by what you hear.
The truth of the matter is that in a divorce, there is plenty of blame to go around. Once you have come to terms with the fact that you are not perfect, it is easier to move forward with more focus and less anger.
Don’t Expect The Best Outcome
Divorce is difficult no matter how old you are, how many times you have been married and how little assets you have to divide. This is something common with both parties.
Don’t expect the divorce process to be easy, it is anything but easy. Just know that once you have ended this chapter of your life, you can move on to the next step of your life.
There are No Winners
A fair settlement is one in which neither spouse is happy, but both can live with the outcome. Once you accept the fact that everything is not going to go your way, you can move forward without the hate and anger.
An amicable divorce is by no means a painless divorce. Nor is it a situation in which one spouse needs to stay friendly to ensure things are civil. Your divorce can be civil without having to be friendly.
An amicable divorce is a divorce where both parties are negotiating rather than litigating. The reward is a shorter time it takes to get through the court system, fewer court visits, reduced costs and less trauma and pain suffered by the children.
Learn When and Where to Vent
You might think that it is a good idea to vent your frustrations with friends who support your cause. Friends and family members want to help, but they might not know how to effectively.
Rather than having friends and family help you with moving past your pain and anger, get help from a therapist, a religious figure or a support group.
If you are seeking a divorce and don’t know where to start, call The Law Offices of Loomis and Greene.