Nothing kills holiday cheer faster than a fresh divorce.
At this time of year, when friends and family gather together to celebrate, the holiday season can be painful if you have recently gone through a divorce. Recovering from any type of loss or heartache is hard over the holiday season.
You may have been coping rather well after your divorce, but the decorations, lights and holiday songs make the pain resurface and it feels like a huge setback. The Law Offices of Loomis and Greene, your divorce lawyer in Fort Collins, offers tips to survive the holiday season after a divorce.
Focus on the Children
If you have children, you can’t let them see you down and out over the holidays. This would make the holidays difficult for them and you don’t want that. By focusing on making the holidays bright and cheery for your children, you will probably find yourself having a little fun as well.
Create New Traditions
You have been celebrating the holidays the same way for quite some time, but since the divorce, things have changed. Old traditions can serve as painful memories and reminders of your previous life. You will feel better creating some new traditions.
Think about what you enjoy and the things you would like to do over the holidays and start your own traditions.
Splurge on Yourself
Don’t think that you have to spend extra money on the kids over the holidays to make up for the divorce. As we all know, gifts don’t equal love. But it is perfectly acceptable to treat yourself over the holidays.
Take that money you planned on using for your former partner’s gifts and spend it all on yourself. It will make you feel better and it is quite satisfying.
Heal and Reflect
The financial, emotional and physical demands of the holidays can be overwhelming for a recently divorced parent. Set aside the negative feelings you are experiencing and instead focus on all of the good things you have going on in life.
Enjoy the time you get to spend with the children, your parents, friends and family members. There are so many things you can be doing with the people you love.
Avoid the Ghost of Christmas Past
The holiday season is the time of year to make fond memories. When you are divorced, don’t visit the fond memories of the past. Instead, work on creating fresh holiday memories with the people you love most.
Take a Vacation
If all else fails and you are still feeling sad and depressed, get away from it all by booking a vacation over the holidays. This is your chance to leave behind the anger, sadness, stress and frustrations you have been dealing with.
If money is an issue, drive to a nearby city and stay at a two-star hotel for a few days. Really, the point of a vacation is to get away from it all for a few days and recharge your battery.
If you require an attorney to help you through your divorce, give Loomis and Greene a call.