Divorce is an unfortunate fact of life. Circumstances change, people change and start to grow apart. But this certainly does not mean that your separation and divorce needs to be ugly.
An amicable divorce is easier on all parties involved. Divorce is a major life event to be sure, but it does not mean that it has to be a heart-wrenching, ugly and drug-our affair.
Once you and your partner have decided to call it quits, you can still remain on civil terms. You need to look at the end of your marriage as an end to a contract, which can be finalized in a way that will benefit both parties.
The Law Offices of Loomis and Greene, your family law practice in Loveland, offers these tips to have an amicable divorce.
Create a Parenting Plan
When there are children involved in a divorce, emotion can become quite heated. You need to hammer out a parenting plan that you both can agree with. This plan should cover who will have the kids and when they will have them.
This isn’t as easy as it seems. You need to break down the small stuff like who will be taking the kids to school, picking them up from school, taking them to soccer practice, things like that. You also need to have a schedule for meals, bedtimes and any special needs that have to be met. For example, if you have a child who takes medication, somebody has to ensure they are taking it and to get more when the prescription runs low.
Most importantly, make sure the kids don’t become a bargaining tool.
If you and your ex-to-be are finding it difficult hammering things out, there is nothing wrong in seeking mediation. Sometimes, even when both of you have the best intentions, you can reach an impasse. In this case, it would be best to enlist the help of a mediator.
Mediation is a great way to settle disputes as a mediator offers an unbiased point of view.
Get A Therapist
Emotions lie at the heart of every divorce battle. Working with a counselor or therapist to explore the emotions you are feeling will help you understand why you feel the way you do and how to control them.
Rally The Troops
In the event of a divorce, you will need all of the support you can gather. Trying to go through this alone is just not a very good idea as it will just magnify your insecurities and doubts. Make sure you have plenty of shoulders to lean on in this difficult juncture of your life.
Get Legal Advice
You may have agreed to stay out of court, but this does not mean you shouldn’t seek legal advice. If you and your spouse have come up with an agreement, have your attorney take a look at it before you sign off on anything.
If you are going through a divorce and need an attorney, give the Law Offices of Loomis and Greene a call.