While every divorce is unique, the fact remains that there is a right way and a wrong way to do it. There are a number of ways in which you and your spouse can make the divorce process go quicker and smoother.
Unfortunately, there are those who intentionally or unintentionally commit common mistakes that often hinder the divorce process. It is important that you keep emotions out of the divorce process. The Law Offices of Loomis and Greene, your family law firm in Loveland, offers mistakes to avoid when going through a divorce.
Don’t Focus on the Past
You can’t expect to move forward until you have effectively let go of the past. We get it, this is far easier said than done, but it is something both parties need to work on.
If you or your spouse are focused on events that have already taken place, it is difficult to shift that focus to what needs to happen right now to ensure a better future for both of you.
Refusing Any Compromise
There is often a spouse who feels that it is “their way or the highway,” so to speak. This type of mentality will only lead to frustration by both parties and further conflict.
In order to reach any type of resolution that both parties can agree to, both parties must be willing to compromise. This is the only way you will reach a middle ground.
You Must Have Reasonable Expectations
A divorce is not a contest to see who can get the most. It is also not a game in which there is a winner and a loser. You must face the fact that there are really no winners in a divorce.
You cannot think that you will get everything that you want in a divorce, it just isn’t going to happen.
Bad Mouthing Spouse to Your Children
Many people are frustrated, angry and hurt by their ex, this is completely normal. But you need to do everything you can to avoid saying bad things about your spouse to others, especially to your kids.
Spewing bad things about your spouse to the kids will needlessly hurt the children and may even hurt your rights in future custody cases.
If you must rant and rave about your spouse, perhaps you should see a therapist, they will listen.
Fighting Over Stupid Stuff
You definitely don’t want to be one of those couples who fight over every little item of personal property. Really, in the long run, it really doesn’t matter if you get the vacuum cleaner and CD collection.
And if you think about it, it makes no sense whatsoever to spend thousands of dollars on attorneys fighting over items worth much less.
Not Getting a Therapist
Experts say that divorce is eight percent emotional. And while you might think that you are completely capable of handling your emotions, when dealing with a spouse who might do everything they can to push your buttons, staying calm and rational is quite challenging.
Contact the Law Offices of Loomis and Greene today. We handle everything from divorce to bankruptcy and more.