It’s June, which means if your kids aren’t out of school yet, they certainly will be soon. If this happens to be the first summer since your divorce was finalized, you may be a bit concerned about how your parenting plan is going to work out once your kids are on vacation.
Here is the thing: as long as you and your ex-spouse are on the same page when it comes to daily routines and any special occasions that may arise, things are going to work out just fine. However, if you have a less-than-amicable relationship with your former spouse, things are sure to get a bit complicated. If you want to make sure that your kids remain your focus and that you do not get caught up in the challenges of your relationship with your ex, you can do it. You simply have to follow the tips below.
Helping Your Children Enjoy Their Summer
If at all possible, we would suggest that you do your best to make sure that your divorce and other adult matters are kept private from your children. While it is impossible for the divorce to not impact the children at all, the more you do to show your children support, the easier this shift in their lives will be for them. When it comes to summer, kids have a lot of time to do as they please. If you want to make sure that this period runs smoothly and is enjoyable and not stressful for your kids, we have a couple of ideas as to how you can do that.
Avoid Scheduling Changes
We would suggest that you keep your kids in the loop about the visitation schedule so that they can know what is going on just as well as you and your former spouse do. It’s one thing to surprise your kids with a trip to their favorite restaurant on a Saturday night, but it is quite another thing to spring on your children that you are taking an impromptu trip and that they will be with their other parent even though that is not the normal routine.
Being a co-parent isn’t easy, but it also doesn’t have to be difficult. Maintaining open communication with your former spouse will help to avoid major problems. Not to mention, preventing bickering and such will make the lives of your children much less stressful.
Share The Visitation Plan
The visitation plan that has been decided on should be displayed for everyone to see in both your and your former spouse’s home. This will prevent disputes about who gets the kids when and it will help your children to know what to expect on a weekly basis.
If you have young children, you can use stickers or symbols so that they know where they are going when even though they cannot read.
Don’t Compare Parenting
If one parent has more free time than the other, it is often difficult for the parent who is working more to not feel guilty about the amount of time they get to spend doing fun things with their kids. Comparing your parenting to the parenting of your spouse is only going to make you feel bad about yourself. So rather than being upset that you can’t take your kids to the pool every day, think about planning a special event for the summer that will help you to feel more connected to your children but that will also not jeopardize your schedule or career.
Be Happy For Your Kids
Additionally, it’s often easy to become jealous or judgmental when your kids are spending a lot more time doing things with your ex-spouse during the summer. However, it is important to realize that whether your kids are with you or with their other parent, the point of summer break for children is having fun! Try to remember this and be thankful that you have a co-parent who has the time and the resources to entertain your kids when they are out of school.
Need Help With Your Co-Parenting?
If you have a parenting plan with your spouse but it is not working or you do not feel as though it is being followed, you always have the option of having an attorney draw up a new one. If you need legal advice about co-parenting and custody matters, contact the Law Office of Loomis & Greene today!