A toxic relationship is a relationship that is emotionally, mentally and spiritually damaging. If you suspect you are in a toxic relationship, it might be time to move on, even if this means filing for divorce.
No relationship is perfect. But for the most part, a good relationship makes you feel happy, secure, respected, cared for and free to be yourself. If you are feeling depleted, drained and distraught, it could be because you are in a toxic relationship.
Relationships evolve. They change and grow, but they can also crash and burn. You never know how things might turn out when your significant other’s true self comes out. Your relationship may have started off with all of the right ingredients, but that was soon replaced by hurt, resentment and jealousy.
The Law Offices of Loomis and Greene, your family law office in Loveland, offers signs that you might be in a toxic relationship.
Oh, The Lies!
Cheating and lying will dissolve trust faster than your 1968 Camaro. Once that trust is gone, it is extremely difficult to get back. A relationship without trust can turn an otherwise healthy individual into a person who is insecure and suspicious.
Once this happens, then the slow erosion of confidence begins. When trust is badly broken, shattered if you will, all the fight in the world might not make things better. Know when enough is enough and that it’s not your fault trust was broken.
Unless you have done something you shouldn’t have, you deserve to be trusted. Everybody should enjoy some level of privacy in a healthy relationship. If your partner is going through your phone, receipts, phone bills and text messages, this is a sign of a toxic level of control. You are an adult and you don’t need your partner to be constantly supervising you.
In healthy relationships, couples take turns being supported and supporting. In a toxic relationship, your partner is always the one who needs support. Regardless of the situation, your partner is too stressed out or too tired or is feeling down and having a pity party.
And when you need a little support, your partner whines that their issues are worse.
Nothing Gets Resolved
Every relationship will have its fair share of issues. In a toxic relationship, every conflict ends in an argument and nothing ever gets resolved. When this happens, needs get buried and that feeds anger and resentment.
Passive-aggressive behavior is a cowardly move for control. In a healthy relationship, couples deal with issues head-on and don’t disguise it as something else. The attack is often subtle and disguised.
This action and behavior are designed to manipulate or hurt, but it is not obvious enough to respond to the real issue.
You are Wrong, Always Wrong
One of the realities of being a human being is that we all make mistakes, there is just no way to avoid it. This is how we learn and grow. It is also how we find out some people don’t deserve us.
Even the most thoughtful, loving people do hurtful, stupid things. And when your partner keeps bringing it up over and over, it can kill an otherwise healthy relationship. At some point, both parties need to move on and stop taking cheap shots. Toxic relationships focus on your weaknesses and not your strengths.
Hoping For Change
Things in the relationship are really bad, but you keep hoping they are going to change. But how long are you going to stick in this toxic relationship before moving on to greener pastures?
You Can’t Do Anything Right
You are now at a point in which you are afraid to do anything because it might upset your partner. You are basically tiptoeing around in your own relationship. Until your partner can come clean and be honest with you about what’s wrong, there will never be a resolution.
Respect is also the foundation of a healthy relationship. A pattern of disrespect will wear you down and create dread and anxiety. It makes you feel like you have to have your guard up all of the time and that can be exhausting.
If you are in a toxic relationship and need to get out, call Loomis and Greene.